Parenting is never easy and if you add domestic abuse into the equation things can become even more difficult and complicated both for parent and child.
Research shows that the majority of mothers make considerable efforts to protect their children from the effect of domestic abuse and may actually choose to remain with violent partners when they consider it too dangerous to leave.
There is evidence that violence frequently continues and often escalates after separation.
The effect of abuse (e.g., pain, distress, anger, irritability, fear, reduced mobility, hospitalisation) may impact on a mother's parenting capacity, Domestic violence may result in mothers being emotionally distant, unavailable or unable to meet their children's needs.
“I didn't have the same patience with the children when he was there, because I think I was frightened he was going to lose his temper.” (Mother in Mullender et al., 2002)
Evidence suggests that violence can damage the mother–child relationship.
Belittling, undermining, insulting and hitting women in front of their children may affect children's respect for their mother's authority, and her ability to exercise authority and control over her children, young people may go onto to abuse their mothers/siblings as having witnessed this behaviour feel it is ‘okay’ to use violence to communicate.
But research also suggests that the effects of domestic violence on mothering may not be permanent.
RISE works in partnership to provide parenting help and support to help mothers regain their confidence in parenting and renew the bonds with their children.
Break4change is a Brighton & Hove programme for families where young people are abusive towards their parents or carers.
This can include hitting, name calling, making threats, stealing money or damaging possessions in the home, etc. This is not an anger management course.
Break4Change is delivered in partnership with the Integrated Team for Families (ITF), the Youth Offending Service (YOS), including Youth Crime Prevention and AudioActive.
Break4Change consists of a 10 week programme with a young people’s group and a parents’ group. The 2 groups run in parallel with each other and include strategies for addressing behaviour. There is also a creative session with AudioActive within the Young People’s group.
If you know a young person/parent/carer who you think would benefit from and be motivated to attend the group please contact us.
Positive Parenting Programme (Triple P)
There is often a high level of stress involved in parenting, with confusion and misinformation coming from every direction. Triple P helps you to cut through confusion and gives you clear and simple strategies to turn problems around and prevent problems from developing in the first place. Imagine:
- using the time and energy you usually devote to sorting out kids’ behaviour problems on something enjoyable.
- having an organised, orderly family routine with ground rules that everyone knows and follows.
- balancing work and family without constant stress and worry.
- being confident that your parenting is giving your kids the best start in life.
Once you’ve done Triple P, you’ll be amazed at how much more enjoyable family life can be.
Parent Child Game
RISE has staff who are trained in the Parent / Child game. This is a parenting aid using technology to help parenting confidence. It has consistently positive outcomes for families:
• Enabling parents and children to have the best possible relationships.
• Improving the quality of parent-child interaction on a daily basis.
• Enabling parents to feel deeply fulfilled in their parental role.
This work is suitable for a parent and child/ren together. The work focuses on building relationships which have been damaged or undermined by the impact of domestic violence or abuse. The work will involve working with a practitioner for up to 12 weeks and can include art, music, discussions and touch all of which is based around your family’s individual needs.
A recovery programme for children / young people impacted by domestic violence. The 12 week programme looks at communication between children and the non abusive parent , safety as well as responsibility around the domestic violence.